the definition of being a man

okay. i know that it's been a while since i've posted. the thing is this. i've had something brewing in my head this whole time and i wanted to wait until i had it all together before i put it out here for all to see, so bear with me, it may take a minute to read. so, here goes....

what is the definition of being a man? what are the qualifications? what exactly makes one manly? i've been thinking about this for some time now, and i can't, for the life of me understand a few things about todays thinking.
in my opinion, these are the qualities that make a guy a man. to me, this is the definition of manly.

1) honor
2) integrity
3) loyalty
4) honesty
5) passionate
6) humble
7) fierce protector
8) leader

i want to know a few things from anyone who disagrees with me. why does it make you less of a man because you choose not to drink alcohol? why does it make you less of a man if you act like you love your wife, even when others are around? why does it make you less of a man if you value her opinions, or actually respect her feelings? why would it make you less of a man because instead of going out to a strip club with the guys, you would rather spend friday night with your wife and children?

i've been watching people a little closer over the last two weeks just to see reactions about certain things. the people that most would call "manly men" are often those who frequent nude establishments (even though they're married). talk about their wives with little or no respect. or the un-married guys that sleep around.

what ever happened to chivalry? what ever happened to honor?

i joke around with many of my friends about my "lack" of manliness. because no, i don't drink. no, i don't go looking after porn. no, i don't call my wife, "the old lady". and because of this. "manly" men deem me "whipped". how did we get here?

why should i want porn? how must that make a wife feel? i believe that she would feel as though she was not "enough" for you. in my opinion, if you are checking out porn or going to strip clubs, you are cheating on your wife.

and, if you have children, do you think that these things don't affect them?

while i may not be the perfect example of "manliness". i must say, i think i'd rather be less than a man than to betray the 8 qualifications that i listed above. and if that gets me labeled as hen-pecked, or whipped, so be it.